Social media platforms have become an integral part of our lives. From the way we get news and information, to the way we keep up with friends and present ourselves to the world, social media platforms are at the center of our daily interaction with the world around us.

At the same time, this makes social media a very important factor during divorce proceedings. The posts we make on social media platforms are eligible for use in court, and if you are currently going through a divorce, it has never been more important to pay attention to put online.

We have put together a list of dos and don’ts of social media for those who are going through a divorce. Follow these rules if you would like to minimize the adverse effects of social media on your divorce proceedings.


1. Minimize Your Presence on Social Media

This does not mean that you should avoid it altogether, but rather focus on posting only the things that might positively reflect on you as a spouse, parent, and overall a person of character. Most of us are prone to outbursts on social media, which could potentially be damaging to our case. Under those circumstances, it might be best to avoid social media platforms for the time being.

2. Think Before You Post

You can bet that your spouse and their legal team will closely monitor anything you put out on social media. Therefore, make sure to really think about whether your presence on social media is adding to or subtracting from your case in the divorce proceedings. A good rule of thumb is if you would be embarrassed for the judge to read your social media posts, don’t post them in the first place.

3. Lock Up Your Social Media Accounts

Make sure to change the passwords to all your social media accounts and lock up the privacy setting on them. Your soon-to-be-ex might know some of your passwords and can gain access to your social media accounts and use any damaging evidence discovered there in the divorce proceedings against you.

4. Present a United Front

Reach out to your friends and family and communicate to them the importance of refraining from bashing or attacking your spouse on social media. Ask them to let the process play out and to offer their support in different ways, such as asking for advice or a shoulder to cry on during tough times. If you are close to your family and like spending time with them, you can use those occasions to highlight that on social media.



1. Do Not Bash or Attack Your Ex

Venting on social media and going on a rant about your ex might feel good the moment you do it, but it comes with significant consequences and can negatively affect your legal case. In addition to that, if you have kids, the fallout might be even greater if they see the negative things you have posted about their other parent.

2. Do Not Boast and Brag

Avoid posting photos or posts about expensive purchases, vacations, or any other things that give out the vibe of a lavish lifestyle. These kinds of posts can portray an unrealistic picture of your financial situation and negatively affect any alimony or child support agreements.

3. Do Not Make Your Dating Life Public

Often when the marriage is over before the actual divorce proceedings are complete, and spouses are dating a new partner during the process. Make sure to keep your dating life off social media and private, to avoid any potential damage to your legal case or negative effect to your kids, if you have any.

4. Do Not Post Anything Illegal or Morally Ambiguous

Photos and videos from a night out with the boys/girls, use of recreational and illegal substances, or events that make you seem unfit as a spouse/parent are an absolute no. Keep those things under wraps and to a minimum during divorce proceedings.

5. Do Not Delete Any Social Media Posts

Deleting social media posts might look as you have something to hide, and the court might see it as the destruction of evidence. This will certainly negatively affect your legal case.

If you are looking for the right attorney to help you navigate the divorce process with compassion and dignity, don’t hesitate to contact the Datz Law Firm and schedule your consult.